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What color is your INTENTION?

INTENTION. What is the intention? What is the driving force – Red or Green – behind an action? That is key to determining the results of the action Red or Green. In the situation above, if the writer’s intention was truly to be inspirational and to salute the great spirit behind the compassionate way folks responded to this serious challenge, the vitriolic inserts between photos would have not even been a thought, let alone an action. Before we take an action, it’s helpful to ask ourselves, “What is my intention?” When it is to make good things happen, it’s a GO signal. Otherwise, it’s a STOP sign. Let us keep moving toward our Greenest intentions, our Greenest actions. GO for it!

GO! Create more Green Light signals.  Marilyn Schoeman

Is your message anchored with “making GOOD things happen”?

I just received a forwarded message with photos of the 25’ of snow that turned North Dakota in a vast white sea, with even higher waves of solid white water. The message celebrated the spirit of the people – everyone doing what they could to help – on their own. They were united in making good things happen – taking in stranded strangers, using whatever equipment they had to help, searching for folks trapped in vehicles.

The story itself was amazing and inspiring. Yet it was contaminated and diminished by the political viewpoints strewn between stunning photos. (Appropriately, these were even printed in red.) This is a common situation with many such emails – a good point/story turned into a political weapon. It can be a not-so-cleverly disguised, psychologically abusive tactic.  It leaves a bad taste in the spirit. Absent that ulterior motive, the misguided effort to use it for political venting, it would have remained the extraordinarily Green story it truly was.

I grew up in on a farm in Iowa and experienced the same selfless spirit in countless situations. A few years ago, an over the100-year-level flood hit my home territory – followed in a couple weeks by a killer tornado. People came from across the state and beyond to help in all kinds of ways. Even those with devastating losses were out helping others. Self-reliance, a caring, ACTION-oriented style drove them. It was a politics-free, agenda-free, heart-driven endeavor.

GO! Create more Green Light signals.  Marilyn Schoeman

Change the way you see things; step out of your comfort zone.

Today the President gave the State of the Union message. A most unusual thing happened. Earlier, a suggestion was made to shift seating arrangements – to cross that great divide – the center aisle. A very Green Light idea. Members of the Senate and Congress normally sit in their designated spots and represent the party line. Their response to a key point would often be a collective one – a moan/groan/scowl or howl if it didn’t match their party line – a nod, grin, clap or cheer if it did. Group-think. (An oxymoron – with emphasis on the last 2 syllables.) Groups don’t think. Individuals do.

It’s really a reflex, a no-think. Granted the group-think is not universal, yet has been widely true. However, this time, they actually mixed! The folks elected to represent us – not the lobbies, their buddies or other interests, but us, the U.S. of A. – mingled. They sat together! Not the red party and the blue party but the purple – the blending that is America.

This encouraged individual responses, not the contagious, often outrageous practice of playing follow-the-leader – whatever the leader/party line says goes. This new style not only generated more thought-full responses, it also led to a more open, collaborative environment – and more civilized behavior. It brought a refreshingly humane environment. People could sit with folks of the other party – and WOW! They could actually find more ways to join forces, discover more common ground – to actually serve the Union. It also gave new freedom to people to be out of that great restraint/inhibitor: party politics. They could even have FUN doing the right thing instead of doing the party thing.

We are a nation. Many speak of one party, and then refer to the other as the opposition party. That Red Light label itself immediately sets up a divide.  It disserves our nation – and our union. We need nation politics – a return to our founding purpose – unity in making good things happen for everyone. How might each of us take a step in that direction – today?

NOTE. Those in mediator, arbitrator, teacher, partner roles – anyone in any situation intended to reach a win/win result – are well-advised to pay attention to how the people involved are sitting. If you are across from each other, it’s a Reddish arrangement. It feels like a battlefront with winners and losers – actually, it’s more like losers and bigger losers. A Greener arrangement is to sit at a round table – or even at an angle – on adjoining sides, rather than opposite sides. This diminishes the sense of battle and increases the sense of working toward a common goal – a win/win focus. To achieve a Green goal, take the actions that set up the Greenest conditions, the greatest likelihood for mutual success.

GO! Create more Green Light signals.  Marilyn Schoeman